When I first found out I was having a daughter, I was overwhelmed with unbelief, excitement, and fear. Naturally, after having two boys, I had figured a little girl was unlikely so my unbelief was there. As soon as we left the doctors office my mind drifted to all things pink and girly. And then in the corner of my mind was this little lingering fear. Kids are mean- my son has had his fair share of issues but girls can be downright nasty to each other. With all that I am, I want to protect my sweet girl from this, but chances are she will have to face a mean girl at some point. I can either live in fear or seek to prepare her.
My goal is to prepare her. While I know she will experience the trials of friendship, hopefully she can be prepared. Below are some truths about friendship I hope to teach my daughter.
(1) Seek friends who encourage you and lift you up. We all have had those friends who drag you down fast. Many times we do not realize it until we are out of the situation or away from it and can view it with a fresh set of eyes. We must always pay attention to who is influencing us.
(2) Only speak good about others. Girls and gossip tend to go hand in hand, don’t they? It can seem a hopeless battle but as in all battles, it starts with one. I can teach my daughter to speak good about others and to see friends who do the same. The thing about gossiping girls is that if they are speaking badly about others to you, you can be sure they are doing the same about the you to others.
(3) Friendships can change. Just as with the seasons, friendships do change. Sometimes friends move away and sometimes you just naturally drift apart as you take on different paths and interests. It can be easy to fight this, get angry, or obsess about every detail. However, the best thing is to focus on being grateful for the season of friendship and then move forward.
(4) Some friendships stand strong over the years, protect these! While friendships can change, there are also those friends that last through every season. These friends- these are gifts from God. My husband and I have good friends and we have not lived in the same state for 7 years now and yet we are closer than ever.
(5) Be there for each other. There will be storms and these storms are when true friends step in. Make an effort to be the one who will be the steady rock.
Raising a daughter can be scary in a world of mean girls but it can also be exciting. We have the opportunity to raise girls who will influence the world for good. We can raise girls who are kind and loving.
What tips would you add to these?