Check out these eight tips for when motherhood is hard.
Sometimes motherhood is hard. It may just be for a season or a day or a week, but there are these really hard moments in mom’s life. Looking back on my past 10 ½ years as a mom, I can see some really hard seasons and also some just hard days.
The thing with motherhood is that it is an amazing gift that fills you with an insane amount of joy and then in the next minute it can send you into the pit of despair.
So what do we do when motherhood is hard? Today, I am sharing eight tips for when motherhood is hard.
Disclaimer: There are times when we are really struggling and it is more than just a hard day. If you are finding it hard to function, please call your doctor. There is no shame in getting help. When we reach out for help, we are then able to truly take care of ourselves so we can care for others.
8 Tips for When Motherhood is Hard
Do a quick check.
You know how when a baby is crying we ask ourselves these things:
- Are they tired?
- Are they hungry?
- Are they wet?
Well, let’s apply the same principles to ourselves but in a slightly different way.
- Am I tired?
- Am I hungry?
- Is there something in my environment that is irritating? (Examples: tantrums of a child, lack of getting out of the house, too busy, etc).
Maybe it is a mixture of all three or maybe there is one of these things that is sticking out to you. Often, I have found that when I am overly tired I struggle more. Consider setting an alarm on your phone to go to bed. Sleep is important!
As moms, we can be so focused on caring for others that we lose sight of ourselves. Eat at least 3 times a day. It is important to fuel yourself!
Lately, I have been challenging myself to go to God before I go to others. I am so quick to send my husband a text, “I am going crazy with the kids” or to vent to a friend. While venting is not necessarily bad, I want my first line of defense to be to cry out to God.
God does not need a lengthy prayer. He sees you and knows you are struggling. Just calling out, Jesus I need you can do wonders. Sometimes I will just say, “God, this is so hard right now! Give me strength and wisdom!”
A reminder with this is that Jesus is not our genie who grants us wishes. We are not praying to have an instant solution. Instead, when we call out to Jesus, we are turning our eyes off of ourselves and back to our Father.
Download the Motherhood Affirmations printable for daily encouragement!
Turn on music.
Whether it is my kids acting crazy or I am just in a funk, tuning on worship music has been so powerful. There is something about having music playing that is worshipful that immediately refocuses me. Here is my favorite playlist.
If it is nice, head outside. Fresh air and sunlight make such a difference in our lives. When my kids were little I would have us all go outside and have them run around or find five neat things so I could sit in the chair and just breathe.
Know your triggers.
Certain things are triggers for different people. Some triggers may be:
- Plans being canceled
- Social Media
It is important to be mindful of what our triggers are. Messes are one of my triggers. When the house is a mess, I feel stressed and overwhelmed. In these moments, I will either tell my family we are doing a quick clean up or turn on a show for the kids and put in my headphones to listen to a podcast while I do a quick clean.
Text a friend.
Community is so important for moms because it helps us know that we are not alone in these struggles. If you are having a rough day, reach out to a friend and tell her. Many times when I have done this, my friends have texted back something to make me laugh or a similar story that helps me remember I am not alone.
Get in the Word of God.
There is so much good that comes from spending time in the Word of God. Whether you are reading your Bible in the morning, afternoon, or night just reading it is what matters! When we read our Bibles, we are then able to recall these words of truth in the moments of struggle.
Be honest about it.
There is nothing wrong with saying, I am having a bad day. There have been many times where I will tell my kids, “I am struggling today.” This is okay and good to do because it shows them that even mom has bad days. Often in these moments, I am reminded that we can start fresh even after a bad morning or afternoon.
These eight tips for when motherhood is hard can be simple ways to help. Whatever season of motherhood you are in, there will be struggles and triumphs. We never become moms who do not have bad days but we can learn how to thrive, even when motherhood is hard.
Make sure to download the Motherhood Affirmations printable for daily encouragement!
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