The secret to intentional motherhood is not in doing more or doing all the things. Instead it is something much different.
Intentional motherhood has always been a focus of mine. I desire to use the time I have with my kids wisely and seek opportunities to be intentional throughout our everyday life. In years past, I have planned elaborate outings, sat down with crafts, and orchestrated family game nights. While each of these activities have been great in different ways, something was always off.
Whether it is was the rain that ruined our outing or the excessive glue use from my son. Or if it was the arguing that kept us from all enjoying family game night, there was always a hiccup. I found myself feeling more stressed than being intentional.
In an effort to find the solution, I would search for more ways to be intentional. Maybe if we tried this or that, we would finally figure it out.
Then lately, I started to realize something.
What if intentional motherhood was not focused on all the things I was doing but instead focused on where I was putting my eyes and my time.
Are my eyes focused on God or are my eyes focused on what every other mom is doing and trying to match up to that?
Is my time spent getting to know God or is my time spent obsessing over how to create the perfect magical memory moments?
Thinking about these questions was eye opening to me because I realized that my eyes were often fixed in the wrong spot and my time fixed on the wrong things. I have slowly been working on changing what I view intentional motherhood to be.
Intentional motherhood is not doing all of the things. Instead it is being intentional with my time and focusing my eyes unto Christ.
Here is what happens when I am intentional with my time and focus on God, I start to let go. I let go of the need for perfection. I let go of my unrealistic expectations of what our live should look like and I also let go of control. Often as moms, we start to believe that if we do this, this, and that we will get the anticipated result. But the truth is that there is no perfect formula to motherhood.
Moms, today, I challenge you to be seek intentional motherhood in a new way! We are not called to constantly be striving but to rest.