We have lived in South Carolina for almost eleven years now. Moving to a new state was quite a challenge and there were many emotions. Even though we have been here for so long that it does feel like home, my heart still feels for those who are moving to a new state. I know how hard the adjustment period can be and how lonely the process can seem.
I can still remember looking through the Charleston SC Real Estate in almost shock that we were really going to make the plunge. However, here we are eleven years later loving the southern life! Yes, there are still hard days where I miss “home”, but overall this truly has become home.
If you are moving to a new state soon, in the process of adjusting, or know someone who just moved, these tips will be helpful for you!
5 Tips for Moving to a New State
Make your new home yours.
Did you love gardening at your old home? Plant a little garden. Did you have a great porch to sit on? Get a chair to sit on your porch and make the porch special. Find ways to make your new home similar yet fresh. Put up pictures from your old town and then leave space to add pictures of your new town. The more you make your new home yours, the more you will start to feel as though this really is home.
The loneliness is one of the hardest parts of moving to a new state. Suddenly your community is gone and you are forced to start over. It can be hard and tempting to shy away, but this is the time to find your community. For us, finding a good church home was the perfect way to get connected with others. Once there we dove into joining a small group and a mom’s group. I learned to be the person who invites others to coffee or for a playdate. It takes time, but eventually you will start to see your tribe form.
Avoid the temptation to sit and reminisce over what used to be. While there is a time and place to talk of the past and savor the memories. There is also a fine line where you go into living in the past and not the present. It is impossible to adjust to a new state if you are constantly focused on what used to be. Wake up every day, choosing to be present and looking for ways to connect right where you are.
Be a tourist.
This is one of the best parts about moving to a new state- you get to be a tourist! We have loved being tourists in Charleston. From trying new restaurants to parks to local attractions, there is always something new to do. When you arrive in your new state, grab some brochures for local spots. Then when your family and friends visit you will have fun spots to take them to!
Give yourself time.
It takes a long time to adjust to a new state. Honestly, it probably took me a few years to really start to feel like this was home. Sometimes it is faster and sometimes it may take longer. Acknowledging that it takes time is helpful.
My hope is that these five tips will encourage you as you move to a new state. Sweet friend, you will learn to love your new home. It just takes time and some intentional choices. Once you adjust, remember to always be on the lookout for newcomers because they are likely feeling just like you used to!
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