What is your best yes in your current season?
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Your best yes is something that is key to thriving motherhood. We are not created to do all the things. I am prone to fall into the believe that I need to be doing it all. I am a recovering people pleaser.
A few years ago, I read The Best Yes by Lysa TerKeurst. If you have not read this book, I highly recommend it. One thing that stuck out to me was that in different seasons we are going to be be saying yes and no to different things. Just because something is a good thing does not mean that it is a yes.
As I think about my best yes and your best yes, I think of the different areas of our lives that we need to consider as we make decisions. One thing I am learning to do, is to wait before I say yes to something and take time to consider these three things.
Three Things to Consider as You Choose Your Best Yes
Protect your marriage.
One big “yes” in my life right now is my marriage. This is the most important relationship in my life after my relationship with God, which means I must protect it. Sometimes this means we miss out on things because we are protecting our marriage. For my husband and I we have learned the value of downtime. Our in home date nights are some of our most favorite times.
Protect your family.
Another big “yes” in my life is my family. Between church and soccer, our evenings can become pretty busy. Then you add in anything else and it can be hard to find time as a family. We have learned to wait before committing to extra things. This means we may say no to attending a birthday party because we need time as a family. IT is hard to say no to good things, but when it means that you are protecting your family time, it is necessary.
Protect your well being.
This is possibly one of the hardest to consider when choosing your best yes. Personally, I know I have neglected my own well being on countless occasions but it is something I am working on. As I have started to understand my personality more, I have realized the importance of downtime and alone time. I love people and connecting with others and connecting people together, but I am an introvert. Often after events or gatherings, I feel a mixture of exhausted excitement. I need my downtime so I have learned to schedule my life accordingly.
As you consider the different things in your life that you are saying yes to, I encourage you to evaluate them in light of the three things above. Often, when we are in survival mode, we are saying yes to all of the things and losing sight of what the main things are. There are some seasons where our capacity will be greater and then there are seasons where it is smaller and that is okay.
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